How can your dark side make you more successful?

Are you constantly trying to fit in -be what or who someone else expects you to be?  

Won’t they point and criticize you?

I’ve been there. After all, if you stand out -if you’re the tallest poppy, won’t you get cut down? Won’t people look at you and point at you and criticize you because you don’t fit into their box. You don’t fit into what they believe you should be or you don’t behave in the way they expect?


In the clip I share below, Tim Minchin sings about this perspective. I’m sharing his video clip because he’s frickin’ amazing. But, here’s the deal he didn’t fit into the music industry’s expectations. He didn’t fit into the box of what a pianist is supposed to be. Nor did he fit into what a comedian is supposed to be like.

Does he have a dark side?

Is he deep? Does he have a darkside? Hell yes! We all do for pity sakes, but Tim worked with his. In fact, he went far beyond just working with it. He knows his inner powers -his amazing strengths- and he’s ran with them to create an exceptionally successful career all while sharing his powerful perspectives.

If you’re impressed by Tim, find out more about him here:

Don’t hide your dark side from others

When you succumb to hiding your dark side, your uniqueness, and your crazy f****d up ideas from others…well, you end up just being another wallflower. No one will notice you. 

If you would prefer to just remain quiet, do your job, then go home and plop down watching a little TV or reading a book, then I’m not the right person to lift you up or kick you in the ass anyway 🙂 

Your absolute truth

But, the absolute truth is that you’re here because you want to make a difference in the world, you want to have a bigger impact, you want more influence – right? You’re here because you’ve been feeling the call. You know it’s your time.

A part of me feels like I can’t express this idea any better than Tim’s Dark Side performance. On the other hand, there are always numerous ways to express our views. Music is huge to me -after all I was a dancer and taught dance for a big portion of my life. That’s why I chose to use this example to get you to stop and think about not being like everyone else. To encourage you to stop giving in to other’s expectations of what you should do. 

Music and artists can reach into your soul

Music and artists can reach into your soul and touch pieces you may not have been able to touch yourself. In fact, one of my favorite exercises I teach when working with clients on bridging their “soul gap” is having them create a musical autobiography and then go deeper with it.  

Your mini-exercise today: Go listen to your favorite artists and really listen to the lyrics. Listen to your heart and listen to your soul. What do you feel? What lyrics stand out to you? What emotions are you feeling?

Oh, first, watch the video above of Tim playing the Dark Side. It’s deep, funny, and mind-blowing amazing piano playing!  

Recognize your dark side…and be bold enough to show it

Back to the overall point of today’s post…recognize your dark side. Embrace it in a way that works best for you. Be brave enough to show your uniqueness. Be bold enough to stand told and shout your message -in your style- from the rooftops.

Note – Tim sings near the end around the 12:20 mark: “F***ing I can have a dark side too. F****ing woo!”  I love this!

Your own personal crazy

When you know your own personal crazy, you know your own strengths and you learn how to use those strengths (your inner powers) in a way that inspires you and brings you the attention you want and need to make a real difference in the world, then you know how your dark side can make you more successful!

Janelle Alex – Transpersonal Business Coach & Shaman for Successful Women who feel the call to make a real difference in the world, but don’t know where to start.

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